I never wanted this blog to be one of those blogs where it’s only updated once every couple months or so and readers say “Oh, right, it’s this person.” Unfortunately, that’s what happened. This type of inconsistency isn’t good for me, it’s not good for business, and it’s not good for you, my readers, either. You come here for a reason, and whatever that reason might be, I have not been holding up my end of the bargain.
I had lots of excuses as to why I wasn’t posting. In the end, that’s all they were. Empty excuses that did not make up for my lack of content. Especially when I was not bold enough to share those excuses with my readers. Every year I make a resolution to post more, or at least with some sort of frequency. Every year, that resolution starts to fade away a little bit earlier.
The truth is, I let life get in the way. To be honest, it’s not even a life that I’m happy with. There is so much about it that I want to change, and for the longest time I thought that there was no way I could change it. I blamed my circumstances, or anything else to avoid taking responsibility for why I was so miserable. The job market is terrible, there’s nothing out there, I’m too tired and stressed from work to do my writing, just let me sit here and play mindless Facebook games instead. I let myself believe that my job was more important than my passions and that I could be perfectly happy working 50+ hours a week for barely above minimum wage, and I just kept becoming more miserable.
Then through some strange set of circumstances, I met a woman who indirectly completely changed my perspective on things. First of all, she had faith in me when I was starting to lose faith in myself. I have yet to measure up to that faith she has put in me, but I’ve made it my goal every day to exceed her expectations.
The other thing she did for me was she introduced me to a book that really opened my mind on what it took to be successful. Many of you know that I have been trying for many years to be a writer. And by trying, I mean that I wrote a few books, did very little editing, and then expected the first person who looked at them to see how absolutely wonderful they were. I did no platforming (unless you want to count blogging once a month as “platforming”) and I was absolutely terrified of the idea of peer review. This book helped me open my eyes to the idea that if I really wanted it, and I do, then I was going to have to work for it. That book, of course, was Darren Hardy’s The Compound Effect.
I haven’t written a review for this book, because I feel as though my days of book reviewing are coming to an end. My days of book recommending, however, are just beginning, and this is the first one I am going to recommend. While it’s too early to say what impact this book will have on my life, it has really been an eye-opener for me. This book helped me realize that if I ever wanted to be successful, if I wanted to follow my passions, first of all, I had to stop blaming work. I had to own up to the time that was not spent working on myself. Even when I work six days a week, that’s only eight and a half hours out of my day. Plus I have two 15 minute breaks and a half hour lunch, so work is really only taking eight hours out of my day when you factor in travel time. Okay, so I personally know I need to sleep eight hours of the day, and I need to do my workouts which can last anywhere from half an hour to an hour and a half. If you factor in eating dinner, time spent getting ready for work and for the gym, and my Italian lessons, that still leaves me with 5 hours a day that I could spend growing my business and working on my writing. That’s nearly two thousand hours a year, and I was making excuses that I did not have enough time to do stuff. If you really want something, work for it, and don’t make excuses.
Even small, consistent changes go a long way towards helping you realize your goals. Because small, consistent changes, eventually becomes habit, and then you’re getting stuff done without even thinking about it.
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